One of my favorite Seinfeld bits (from the TV show) is when Jerry goes to pick up the rental car he reserved and learns there are no cars available. Irritated, he snarkily imparts on the un-apologetic agent “You know how to take the reservation. You just don’t know how to

  “I can’t be any good to you if I am not good to myself.” For whatever reason, I stopped and paid close attention to these words from Mary J. Blige (she said these in an interview I watched this morning about her new children’s book ‘Mary Can’).   I